Did you know that our skin absorbs the toxins caused by second-hand smoke? These poisonous chemicals DON'T activate only when we breathe them in; they slowly and subtly kill us through our skin as well, like how a creeper or a poisonous vine destroys a sturdy tree.
The other DJ responded, "No, there's no such thing as immunity against such poison. In fact, you will grow dependent on it."
I think it applies to our lives as well.
When we are in toxic relationships, we may not realize that we are turning dependent on them. Poisonous venoms creep and clutch onto us, thus suffocating us. Look at the number of men and women who decide to stay put in toxic relationships. Most of the time, we don't realize when we are being poisoned. We won't know that we're covered in smoke until someone bold enough points to us and says, "Hey, you smell of cigarettes".
I want to write about a topic that is less touched upon -- toxic friendships. Venoms always come in subtly. Here are 5 ways to identify if you are in an abusive friendship, or being manipulated by others.
1. Subtle discrimination, awful regression
2. Hurtful accusations, defensive reactions
3. The venom goes around telling everyone else about you, without talking to you personally.
4. You are forced into a robotic trance with that person
5. The ultimate hurtful weapon: Using God to hurt you
I think we should never recklessly use words such as "Thank God He let me see your true colours". It degrades you and convicts you as part of an unwanted creation ‑- that you are some awful human being that should cease existence. I always believe that God is involved in building people up. Trials show the character of one's faith. Because God is love, He will never want to exclude sinners from His grace, unless they turn Him away.
By God's grace, He helps us to keep a clear conscience before God and men.
"and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame." (1 Peter 3:16)
“Because of this, I also labor that my conscience may always be pure before God and before all people.” (Acts 24:16)
Many of these are happening because the poisonous vines keep spreading. When the sins of others hurt someone, the broken person goes on to hurt others. Take the second-hand smoke for example: Some people have NOT smoked their entire lives, but breathing in second-hand smoke gave them cancer. The chain effect occurs when their loved ones suffer with them in their pain. Recognize the signs of such toxicity, and cut the vine off before it starts suffocating you.